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Quit Lust and Live again. 28 октября, 2010

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Quit Lust and Live again.
Serving lust can become a full-time job. Many are they who have been taken over and become slaves to their own lusts. Sexually transmitted diseases, broken hearts and destroyed marriages are just a few of the casualties that frequently occur due to lust.
Lust will take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay and cost you more than you want to pay. Once ensnared it can be awfully difficult to break away.What you do with your body effects your mind. The sex drive is not evil and therefore should not be ignored. It must however be understood and properly controlled.

You do not have to be a slave to your own lusts. Your body does not have to be your master. This book will show you how to:

  • Harness and possess your soul.
  • Govern and rule over your bodily appetites.
  • Avoid seduction and enticements.
  • Discern the origins of urges and feelings before being drawn away by them.
  • Differentiate between spirit, mind and body.
  • Practice eye control on demand.
  • Cultivate meaningful relationships.
  • Fight to preserve your personal integrity.
  • Live your life to the fullest.
  • Put sex in its proper place.
  • Properly evaluate and establish your manhood.
  • Esteem women as God created them and see them more than sex objects.
  • Know yourself and others by the Spirit.
  • Live freely in the Spirit and cut the strings of seduction.Promiscuous sex is like eating cotton candy. Though it does not nourish you, it tastes good for a little while. However the more you indulge and eat eventually the sicker you’ll feel.

    Having sex doesn’t make you a man. Dogs can have sex. Manhood is determined by your ability to control your bodily appetites and rightly direct them according to your life’s purpose.

Finding Love 25 октября, 2010

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Finding Love.
Loving and being loved adds richness to our lives. When people feel close to others they are happier and even healthier. Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure.
But each kind of love has its own distinctive feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.
Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these feelings, they’re still there. It’s a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be exciting — or even confusing at first.
The Magical Ingredients of Love Relationships

Love is such a powerful human emotion that experts are constantly studying it. They’ve discovered that love has three main qualities:

•Attraction is the “chemistry” part of love. It’s all about the physical — even sexual — interest that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what’s behind the flushed, nervous-but-excited way we feel when that person is near.
•Closeness is the bond that develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don’t share with anyone else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you are. Trust is a big part of this.
•Commitment is the promise or decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the relationship.
These three qualities of love can be combined in different ways to make different kinds of relationships. For example, closeness without attraction is the kind of love we feel for best friends. We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. But we are not romantically interested in them.
Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation. You’re attracted to someone physically but don’t know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings.
Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. Lots of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush or “love at first sight”) and develop into closeness. It’s also possible for a friendship to move from closeness into attraction as two people realize their relationship is more than “just like” and they have become interested in one another in a romantic way.
For people falling in love for the first time, it can be hard to tell the difference between the intense, new feelings of physical attraction and the deeper closeness that goes with being in love. Lasting Love or Fun Fling?
The third ingredient in a love relationship, commitment, is about wanting and deciding to stay together as a couple in the future — despite any changes and challenges that life brings.
Sometimes couples who fall in love in high school develop committed relationships that last. Many relationships don’t last, though. But it’s not because teens aren’t capable of deep loving.
We typically have shorter relationships as teens because adolescence is a time when we instinctively seek lots of different experiences and try out different things. It’s all part of discovering who we are, what we value, and what we want out of life.
Another reason we tend to have shorter relationships in our teens is because the things we want to get out of a romantic relationship change as we get a little older. In our teens — especially for guys — relationships are mainly about physical attraction. But by the time guys reach 20 or so, they rate a person’s inner qualities as most important. Teen girls emphasize closeness as most important — although they don’t mind if a potential love interest is cute too!
In our teens, relationships are mostly about having fun. Dating can seem like a great way to have someone to go places with and do things with. Dating can also be a way to fit in. If our friends are all dating someone, we might put pressure on ourselves to find a boyfriend or girlfriend too.
For some people dating is even a status thing. It can almost seem like another version of cliques: The pressure to go out with the “right” person in the “right” group can make dating a lot less fun than it should be — and not so much about love!
In our late teens, though, relationships are less about going out to have fun and fitting in. Closeness, sharing, and confiding become more important to both guys and girls. By the time they reach their twenties, most girls and guys value support, closeness, and
communication, as well as passion. This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run — a love that will last.
What Makes a Good Relationship?
When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. They may doodle the person’s name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing.
It sure feels like love. But it’s not love yet. It hasn’t had time to grow into emotional closeness that’s needed for love. Because feelings of attraction and sexual interest are new, and they’re directed at a person we want a relationship with, it’s not surprising we confuse attraction with love. It’s all so intense, exciting, and hard to sort out.
The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while. Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever. If a relationship is destined to last, this is where closeness enters the picture. The early passionate intensity may fade, but a deep affectionate attachment takes its place.
Some of the ways people grow close are:

•Learning to give and receive. A healthy relationship is about both people, not how much one person can get from (or give to) the other. •Revealing feelings. A supportive, caring relationship allows people to reveal detail about themselves — their likes and dislikes, dreams and worries, proud moments, disappointments, fears, and weaknesses. •Listening and supporting. When two people care, they offer support when the other person is feeling vulnerable or afraid. They don’t put down or insult their partner, even when they disagree.
Giving, receiving, revealing, and supporting is a back-and-forth process: One person shares a detail, then the other person shares something, then the first person feels safe enough to share a little more. In this way, the relationship gradually builds into a place of openness, trust, and support where each partner knows that the other will be there when times are tough. Both feel liked and accepted for who they are.
The passion and attraction the couple felt early on in the
relationship isn’t lost. It’s just different. In healthy, long-term relationships, couples often find that intense passion comes and goes at different times. But the closeness is always there.
Sometimes, though, a couple loses the closeness. For adults, relationships can sometimes turn into what experts call “empty love.” This means that the closeness and attraction they once felt is gone, and they stay together only out of commitment. This is not usually a problem for teens, but there are other reasons why relationships end. Why Do Relationships End?
Love is delicate. It needs to be cared for and nurtured if it is to last through time. Just like friendships, relationships can fail if they are not given enough time and attention. This is one reason why some couples might not last — perhaps someone is so busy with school, extracurriculars, and work that he or she has less time for a relationship. Or maybe a relationship ends when people graduate and go to separate colleges or take different career paths.
For some teens, a couple may grow apart because the things that are important to them change as they mature. Or maybe each person wants different things out of the relationship. Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not.
Moving On
Losing love can be painful for anyone. But if it’s your first real love and the relationship ends before you want it to, feelings of loss can seem overwhelming. Like the feelings of passion early in the relationship, the newness and rawness of grief and loss can be intense — and devastating. There’s a reason why they call it a broken heart. When a relationship ends, people really need support. Losing a first love isn’t something we’ve been emotionally prepared to cope with. It can help to have close friends and family members to lean on. Unfortunately, lots of people — often adults — expect younger people to bounce back and “just get over it.” If your heart is broken, find someone you can talk to who really understands the pain you’re going through.
It seems hard to believe when you’re brokenhearted that you can ever feel better. But gradually these feelings grow less intense. Eventually, people move on to other relationships and experiences. Relationships — whether they last 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, or a lifetime — are all opportunities to experience love on its many different levels. We learn both how to love and how to be loved in return.
Romance provides us with a chance to discover our own selves as we share with someone new. We learn the things we love about ourselves, the things we’d like to change, and the qualities and values we look for in a partner.
Loving relationships teach us self-respect as well as respect for others. Love is one of the most fulfilling things we can have in our lives. If romance hasn’t found you yet, don’t worry — there’s plenty of time. And the right person is worth the wait.

Taking it to heights 25 октября, 2010

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Men really need to focus of pleasuring women otherwise it may later even lead to the divorce due to unsatisfactory sex life. Women are the most sensitive human beings. For women sex is not a mere physical activity, but they like to enjoy its sensitivity and emotional side along with the sexual pleasure. Men like to give pleasure to women but due to the inadequate knowledge about sex, he fails to do so and it results into the uninterested attitude of women towards sex. In the survey it was noted that more than 50% of the women are unsatisfied with their sex life and this really put a big question on the men’s functionality. Men on other hand are very much physical during the sex and this keeps women devoid of the pleasure that they want from men. So, you need to learn some techniques to pleasure women

1.Setting the mood Men are always ready for sex, but women needs to come into the mood before they go for the sexual ecstasy.
2.Foreplay is the most important women pleasure technique. It is only through the foreplay that you can get your ladylove ready for the sexual ecstasy. Women require a lot of foreplay to turn on
3.Go slow Women are very slow to come in mood as compared to men. Men require only 2 minutes to reach the orgasm, whereas women require at least 15 minutes to reach the orgasm.
4.Explore all body parts Remember that women require a whole body stimulation to get involved in the sex completely. Paying attention only towards the reproductive organ, turn off the women because they love that their partner pays attention towards there each and every part.
5.Clitoral stimulation. Women feel the intense sexual pleasure with the clitoral stimulation. Like the penis is men, clitoris is the most sensitive part of the women reproductive system.
6.Breast stimulation Breasts are the sensitive body parts and should be given a due attention if you want to give pleasure to your ladylove. Be soft on breasts, use your fingers to touch her nipples softly and then keep them revolving around them. This will really make her feel the immense pleasure of sex and she will get into the mood. You will be surprised to see her even reaching the orgasm only with breast stimulation.

Getting to grips understanding her sexually 25 октября, 2010

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Men are used to initiating everything — from the first contact to sex to proposing marriage. Guys are the ones who have to do all the hard work while women sit around and wait for wonderful things to happen.

It must be difficult being the one who always has to do the pursuing rather than being the one chased by an admirer. But what if the tables were turned? Do you think you’d be thrilled if your woman always did the chasing when it came to sex?

Now before you jump into an enthusiastic chant of “Hell yeahs,” keep in mind the famous maxim: “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.” Would you know how to keep a sexually demanding woman happy?

Why is she aggressive?

The female orgasm is no longer a shot in the dark; now, most women expect to orgasm virtually every time they make love. And if you can’t get it right, they’ll teach you how to do it by taking over the situation.

And look around you: Virtually every television commercial, movie, music video, and billboard ad displays sexually aggressive, um, I mean, assertive women. Therefore, women are quickly picking up on the fact that being sexually aggressive does not necessarily make them tramps.

Unfortunately, many women will not let on about their sexual aggressiveness until later in the relationship for fear that their partner might think they’ve been around.

But if your woman was raised in an environment in which sexuality was not shunned or treated with disdain, she’ll likely be very comfortable with her own sexuality. This can result in a woman who may very well have you limping out of the bedroom once she’s through with you.

she wants it all

The wonderful thing about a sexually aggressive woman is that she’s completely in tune with what she enjoys when it comes to lovemaking. She has no qualms about letting her lover know what makes her tick.

As well, she’ll always be up for a sexual escapade with you, and she’ll likely be bold in and out of the bedroom. You can rest assured that she’s not shy or uncomfortable about discussing fantasies and naughty little ideas.

The best part of having an aggressive lover is that you won’t always have to be the one who initiates; she won’t hesitate to take off your clothes and sit on top of you.

This is the kind of woman who could make love to you with
slow-motioned sensuality or enjoy some sexual frolic made up of animalistic intuition.

And the fact that she goes in search of her own orgasms takes away some of the pressures that most guys feel when it comes to having sex. Now you don’t have to worry about making her climax because she’ll ensure that the both of you do.

The drawbacks
Although most guys swear that they would do virtually anything to land a woman who would tell it like it is and treat them like sexual prey on a nightly basis, reality dictates otherwise for some.

I talked to several guys who had the advantage of dating such women, and many discussed their fears. Jim revealed, “I became irrationally jealous. I always envisioned her treating other men this way and would become enraged, which ultimately led to petty fights.”

Harold admitted: “I was afraid that if there was one night that I simply was too tired or just not in the mood, she would lose all interest in me and go find herself a virtual racehorse that was young, dumb and full of [expletive deleted].”

As well, most guys I spoke to admitted that they sometimes stopped desiring sex as much simply because they knew it was so readily available to them. Because there was no challenge involved in getting the pie, they sort of lost their appetites.

But fear not: The good definitely outweighed the bad, and although there were some complaints, most guys wouldn’t trade in their mates for anything in this world. They simply learned a few tricks of the trade and made the best of their situation.

how can you keep up?

If you happen to be one of the lucky guys who has the pleasure of making love to a woman of this genre, here are a few ways to ensure that she’ll be satisfied for good.

Keep her coming

Stay mysterious and always ensure that she desires you. Just as men get turned on by the thrill of the chase, so do women. Don’t always give in, and when you do, bring her to immeasurable heights.

Order her around

Obviously, no one likes to have a drill sergeant barking orders at them in the sack, but talking to her while you’re making love — as well as telling her what you want her to do — will likely excite her more than usual.

Take control

Because she’s used to having complete control in bed, imagine how enlightening it would be if you took absolute power and had her at your sexual mercy (willingly, of course).

Initiate sex

Before she gets the chance to make any moves on you, start the foreplay by approaching her from behind and grabbing hold of her breasts while sucking on the back of her neck. Your spontaneity will turn her on immensely.

Well-kept secrets

Okay, so maybe you’re not surrounded by aggressive women who enjoy making love wherever and whenever. But keep in mind that sometimes it takes a little time for a woman to open up in that department, as most women are still afraid of being looked upon as trashy or promiscuous.

And if you want to make your woman more aggressive when it comes to lovemaking, talk to her about how she feels when you initiate sex. Explain that just like she enjoys being desired, you also need to feel those emotions every now and again.