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The gospel is simple Май 11, 2012

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Bishop J-m Gilson-Levi

Bishop J-m Gilson-Levi

the gospel is simple, religious has made it difficult to understand, we tent to made our church members some sort of theologians knowing Hebrew, Greek and all the history but not knowing the Lord, we tent to have now in our church the most literate people, thinking so much and analyzing the wording… but now we neglected the basic, preaching the message to the world,healing the sick, sending the captive free… we are so complicated on our message under the cover of so called revelations, that no one growth spiritually no more, the church is becoming a mess, so dirty that we are not able to clean it ourselves..l. the most successful evangelist in this generation had a simple message , based on cross, resurrection, blood, repentance and baptism… not about all the Jewish feasts, the way to be rich, the theology, scatology and all other secondary matters, let us preach salvation, justification,purification,sanctification in other words the FAITH.
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FIRED UP BY SETBACKS !!! Январь 8, 2012

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Life is not easy, and you and me — like all people — are bound to face many challenges. But it is the hardships in life that make us stronger, as long as we come out on the other side. If it happens thta you are dealing with setebacks and hardships in your life, it’s hugely important that you learn to cope.Throughout a person’s life, they are faced with numerous obstacles, and challenges of different types. There are times, when you want to say to life I dont know about yu,but I have said this many a times: “Please give me a break. Just give me a chance to catch my breath.” But life doesn’t listen,life can be a very stubborn nut to crack. Sometimes, as soon as we raise our heads, it knocks us back down. Can you relate to a time in your life, perhaps even now…..,Does it seem like no matter what you do, things just don’t seem to be working in your favor?My life in particular, has not been an easy walk in the park!I have been knocked left right and center,struggled with poor health,deaths in the family,you name them. But through all, I find myself still moving on, though at times gasping for breath! (May be not at the exact pace I wanted… though).A wise close friend once told me,some years back,“After you have been knocked down or pushed back by life, you should acknowledge the setback, understand why it happened, and then make a leap ahead of where you were when you were hit. That’s how to become the person you always wanted and dreamt to be.” The bible says,»Unless a grain of wheat falls into the gound and dies,it shall abide alone,».[ food for thought this is] Most of us have experienced certain bad things that were quite simply put unfair. People can be cruel. Bad things do happen to good people. And you may find yourself in certain situations that are not your fault — but terrible all the same. Even worse, people will wrong us. And we sometimes do not act in accordance to our own values.When dealing with wrongs in life, you should learn to forgive. And that means forgiving others — as well as yourself. It’s important to know when to seek forgiveness from others as well.When facing setbacks, you will only get worse if you do not forgive. The anger and resentment will eat away at you and cloud your very existence. But the act of forgiveness can help you let go and move on.

One important thing to take note of is,the ability to focus on developing your spiritual life, as it will help you deal with all kinds of adversities. Key to facing hardships is faith and a sense that you really are not in control. Hold onto hope. Even if you have only a glimmer of hope, it can get you through some very tough times. Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity? Life can be good, but adversities are also part of life. How does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through difficulties and setbacks and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer many of life`s challenges.The break up of a marriage that one cherished and adored so much,the loss of children because of relational break-ups and not know wether one will ever see the children again. I dont know who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are many instances of such people.

I read the testimony of Ben Tankard and was left wondering at the tenacity and resilence that is endowed in us human beings,which rises up from within during such times of pain and heartache. Ben lost the opportunity of playing basketball in the NBA,as a result of a knee injury,his wife walked out of his life,and many find ourselves in Ben Tankard`s situation.In 1984, while playing with a minor league basketball team in Canada, Ben was invited to a basketball camp where, he was told, NBA scouts would be present.“The scouts did see me play and were interested in me,” Ben said. “But I blew out my knee in the first workout and just like that it was over. There went my chance of being in the NBA.»Where Ben Tankard is today is a good place,but taught and schooled by pain.Acknowledged by many as “the Quincy Jones of gospel,” Ben is one of Christian music’s best-selling instrumentalists. Twentyone gold and platinum albums line the walls of his 23-room mansion—the result of songs he wrote and produced and his association with other artists in the industry. He has also received more than 50 Grammy, Dove and Stellar awards and nominations over the past 20 years, yet these tell only part of the story of how God has brought him through rough and tragic times.The vacation home in Florida; a fleet of vehicles that includes a limousine, a Mercedes and two motorcycles; two private airplanes which Ben pilots himself; and an unshakable marriage that is founded on God’s Word are a testimony, Ben says, to what God will do when you truly trust Him.“It’s not because of anything I’ve done—it’s all about God’smercy.Ben says unashamedly. “It humbles me because I know where I came from and I know who is responsible for me being where I am today.Desperate people do desperate things. At 21, Ben Tankard had become desperate.And he made up his mind not to sink but swim to the other side of the sea.”My word to you is hold on even when the future looks so bleak and gloomy. Looking back, Ben Tankard has learned a lot about sacrificial living.“The truth is, I never really lost out on anything,” he says. “It took me going through a lot of hard times in order to pass the test. I needed to wake up and realize God loves me, and that He anointed me for a purpose. Nothing was taken away from me, it was just delayed.”<[BEN TANKARD`S FROM TESTS TO TESTIMONY].

Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain unmoved because — we are not directly pained by the scenes outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In any SETBACK, at least the second part can be applied. Come what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as an example for others. That should be our destination and that should be our motivation. Does everyone experience SETBACKS AND DIFFICULTIES in life? The Bible says we do. It even tells us to expect it. Look at some of the synonyms for 'expect': wait for, anticipate, look forward to, look ahead to, imagine, suppose, guess. So do we really do all of that with difficult experiences? If we're honest, we'll answer a resounding, NO! (and don't forget the exclamation mark!) When's the last time you looked forward to the next adversity in your life? In this fragile life many or should I say, most, are experiencing some sort of difficulties on a regular basis. I have a lawyer friend who always qoutes this statement in most of his conversations:"I earned my degree at the School of Hard Knox."? As a parody of higher education with respect to life, many have achieved inner wisdom and greatness by overcoming the perils of life through sheer willpower and determination to succeed.

Whether we believe it or not, we grow stronger through difficulties. Instead of beating ourselves up over perceived difficulties, we need to find resolve and learn to use "setbacks" to our own advantage. More often than not, we encounter hurdles to reflect on what it is we are doing in life, where we're going, and what we need to be doing. Sometimes, we keep running into the same encounters because we have not yet comprehended the message we were supposed to learn the first time. That's not necessarily negative; though we may perceive it to be. It is important to note, too, that while we may face difficulties on many levels and at different stages in our lives, we should never be partner to creating our own drama. We must rise above the setbacks that comes into our lives, and take a responsible view of what that event or person(s) is trying to convey to us.When we choose to learn from difficult situations, we are one step closer to becoming enlightened and one rung higher on the ladder of the strong character you'd like to portray and be.

Your earned qualification at the School of Hard Knox should be proudly displayed. The education and experience you receive in life is all part of the grand adventure of becoming part of the positive flow of Universal energy. You are what you create, and adversity is simply part of the equation to fulfilling personal and spiritual growth on all levels.look into the future with hope even when all hope seens to have left you,stay on and fight.BE REMINDED SETBACKS ARE PART OF LIFE,WE ALL, WILL HAVE <

4 14 Window It’s Time to Wake Up Сентябрь 16, 2011

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Check Your Ego in Relationships Август 3, 2009

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EGO IN RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE VERY DESTRUCTIVE I say something over and over again (because it is so important!): To be able to truly love yourself and love someone else, you must drop the ego. This is absolutely essential to finding an amazing relationship. It’s equally critical to maintaining and continually improving a relationship once you’re already in it. To Annita and several others in relationships, this is extremely important.Hope you find this inspiring and worth reading.. Nothing will kill a relationship — even the best of relationships — more quickly than ego. Here are five ways your ego can ruin your relationship, and how to avoid letting it happen. 1. Your ego is on guard duty. Resist the temptation to defend yourself. Think about the number of times you’ve fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you start to defend yourself. All you hear is yourself being attacked, and you immediately go into «defending yourself» mode. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, what’s really happening is your ego is defending itself? It also means that you’ve stopped listening to the other person. If your partner tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome. 2. Your ego is stuck to you. To love yourself and someone else completely, you must separate the ego. In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world, of course, so let’s get real. We are all ego-driven to some extent or another, so let’s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to detach the ego to cultivate and maintain a truly amazing relationship with someone. 3. Your ego hates feedback. The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan, and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation you’re about to have, if you let it. Let’s say your significant other is frustrated with you in one way or another and really needs to express something about that to you. How do you respond? If you let your ego get involved and you defend yourself, it means that you’re not listening to your partner. In order to really listen to somebody, it’s uncomfortable. Sometimes your significant other has things to say about you that you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you can’t let your ego keep you from truly listening. 4. Your ego is always active. You have to be willing to drop the ego and learn to have a healthy relationship. If you want to get deep with someone and take your relationship to a higher level, you must take your ego out of the equation. Your significant other is going to do things that you don’t recognize. It may be voices, patterns, communication styles, or other traits with which you aren’t familiar. You need to be open and willing to learn these things about your partner, and your ego will keep you from doing this every time. Most importantly, you need to learn your partner’s communication style, because many times it will be very different from your own. Dropping the ego doesn’t mean you need to change who you are. It can take a lot for you to drop your ego, to really listen to your significant other, and to realize that they need you to say something in a different way. A lot of people misunderstand these kinds of requests as being their partner’s attempt to change them. It’s not. They’re not trying to change you; they are trying to improve the way you communicate with each other. Don’t let your ego get in the way. Embrace this! 5. Your ego launches low blows. Do you get frustrated when you’re having an argument with your significant other? Of course, we all do. When that happens, though, sometimes the ego will cause you to hurl hurtful comments at the other person. You’re feeling hurt, so you lash out and say something you know will make the other person hurt, too. It was not only hurtful, but inevitably something stupid. By listening to your partner rather than lashing out from your ego, you can get through an argument without these low blows, and arguments will be much more constructive — not destructive — to your relationship. So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing yourself to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Listen carefully to what’s really being said, and use it to create the most amazing relationship

Relationships and Marriage».Do theу realy work these days?» Июль 26, 2009

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Herbert Mtowo

Marriage and Seasons 26/07/09

A couple of hours prior to writing this article I was talking to a lawyer close friend of mine to be. She said,”Herbert,I am sacred to getting married in case I get the wrong person in my life.”I said to her that’s not the solution, maybe because of what she sees and hears in the corridors and courtrooms, whereby she sees people who once said until death do us apart, brutally killing and wounding each other beyond imagination. What she sees and is experiencing miles from my beloved country Namibia, seems like we are just having the same nightmares and experiences. Though she is thousands of miles away in Zamibia,her fears are what have griped everybody on planet earth. Whether to marry or not to marry.Annita my good friend in Zambia has the same fears like you and me are going through in other countries and continents. I said to my good friend Annita,”Me and you have a greater responsibility shouldered upon us, to correct the wrongs and make this generation hope in marriage again. I personally tend to think and conclude our mind set is the problem, I still stand to be corrected on this one. Marriage is a give and take life commitment. But most people get into marriage for the wrong motives, to have someone make them happy, to be loved when they can’t give back the love. It`s not just a you taking out, but what are you prepared to give to see your relationship last a lifetime? Am pulling no punches here, we don’t have any excuse to have mediocre relationships and marriages. We can best understand marriage by understanding the seasons that we have in life, and prepare accordingly for each season as it comes. We must prepare ourselves for all the seasons in life as much as we prepare for all the seasons in marriage. Let’s talk about the four seasons of marriage: Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. Usually we think of marriage as a relationship with our partner but it can also be the state of marriage solely within us called «the inner marriage.» The inner marriage is an intimate relationship with our self. We need a strong inner marriage of love, appreciation, understanding and respect for our self in order to experience the serenity, joy, and connection attainable in an outer marriage. Spring of Marriage is when matrimony begins. We are often young and overflowing with boundless excitement, optimism and desire. We start this first phase believing — unconsciously — that our partner is here to save our life and fulfill every expectation we ever dreamed possible. We are full of projections. In this early stage of development we rarely see the essence of the man or woman before us because we are so blinded by the light of the mythological god or goddess who blocks our view. We take our wedding vows, «Please heal me of every pain and love me forever.» Well, we didn’t say that but that’s what most of us thought. It’s a young and hopeful dream. We are in love and often madly so. Summer of Marriage is when we often bring children into the world. These precious little ones fill our lives with love, fun, pressure and (ugh!) adult responsibility. As the children grow, husbands and wives may argue that the spouse is not who we thought they were! We may even wonder if we are who we thought we were. Enter the mid-life crisis. It can be a stressful time of struggle. Later in this phase of the marriage cycle children will fly away from the carefully constructed family nest and into their brand new lives, just as their mother and father did. Husbands and wives now begin to surrender and let them go, albeit a little sadly. It’s an emotionally healthy and necessary choice. «Sunrise, sunset, swiftly flow the days» go the words from Fiddler on the Roof. No wonder that song makes so many couples cry. Then we look around. It’s so quiet. The voice of Spirit whispers, «Something needs to change.» We think the something is our mate. «If only he…, if only she …,» Eventually we recognize it is not our mate but we who must change. We begin to understand that the inner marriage is of monumental importance. We commit to know yourself again. This commitment provides immediate insurance not just for us but for our couple relationship. It feels good. Understanding this inner marriage also makes boundaries clear, «I stop here and you start here.» Sometimes people are fearful that introspection might separate them. It could, but at least it’s honest. When we work to connect the inner marriage with our outer marriage we begin to appreciate the real glory in our spouse. We also begin to see the first authentic wrinkles of responsibility for our own life, too, and we begin to grow up. Of course, sometimes it doesn’t all work out and couples do separate permanently. But if that should occur at least each party has the satisfaction of knowing who he or she is and can apply it non-defensively for the good of the children and grandchildren involved. Not every relationship was made in heaven. Autumn of Marriage is all about transition and change. We watch our children raising their children. We graciously step back and let them live their own lives. We give them space when they need it. We throw our arms around the joy our grandchildren bring and pitch in whenever we can help. Watching our families grow is so full of wonder we want everyone to stop growing! But respecting time’s natural rhythm — especially when feeling astonished — helps us move right along with the changing tides as we consider what we want to do with our life now. Some want the pleasure of work, some the pleasure of play, and some want a combination. Being open to every new idea will see us through. That is key, keep it fresh. Winter of Marriage is when we enter into the final season of marriage with another or with ourselves alone for death or choice or fate may have put us there. So we pray for everyone’s good health. We are reflective and thoughtful. We live in our souls more. We recognize and give thanks for all the important moments in our life and for those we’ve met along the way who have helped us to transform, evolve and grow. We look forward to any final gifts of grace this season will provide. We reach for our partner’s hand or put our hand over our heart to touch the symbolic hand of our inner partner. At what season is your relationship or marriage, and what you going to do during this season? Prepare for them seasons before they come. Regards, Herbert Mtowo “ Start feeding opportunities and starve problems in your relationship……”

The Woman Июль 24, 2009

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Herbert Mtowo

Old Higgins watched with wonder. He had never seen a woman with such irrepressible zeal for her role. Here was a wonder mum indeed.
He watched as she intercepted the scuttling feet and caught her son into her arms, despite his protests and cries. “Look, you’re a bird! Look how you can fly!” She swung him to the left and right and chuckled as she did. He kicked and screamed and demanded the right to run, but she pulled him to her chest and pointed to the sheep on the hill. “Look at the sheep. How many sheep are there?”
While Higgins and others scanned the flock to make their estimate the boy would have none of it. He kicked his mother and pulled his arms free from her hold. “Let me go!” He demanded. “Would you like some food?” the wonder mum asked sweetly. “Let’s see what mummy has in her bag for you.” The boy settled and stood at her side as she opened her huge bag.
At The Station
“What an amazing woman”, each onlooker thought, as they waited for the train. This wonder mum had struggled with her implacable child for over twenty minutes, and just kept on being calm, enthusiastic and positive. Just about every other person would gladly have thrashed the boy, but the mother was determined to win him over with her winsome ways and her never-ending store of surprises and delights.
After just a bite or two the food was thrown to the ground and a loud complaint bellowed forth. “Oh dear”, thought the weary crowd. They had hoped for success this time. Higgins found his muscles tighten yet again at the pitch of the boy’s scream.
And so it continued another twenty minutes. Food, drink, games, distractions, tickles, toys, song and dance spun past in a constant stream of ineffectual efforts. The crowd was exhausted, but amazed to see the stamina of the wonder mum, who pressed on through it all.
When the train finally arrived everyone became distracted in the bustle for their allocated seats. Wonder mum found the energy to carry her problem child and her bags onto the carriage.
Higgins was relieved to find himself in a different car to the wonder mum. He wondered how he would have survived even being near the child for the day’s journey. He would tell his daughter all about this wonder mum, when he arrived for dinner.
The Exhausted Mum
He had just settled into his seat when, to his dismay, a woman and child arrived to sit opposite. Rage rose in his face and a scowl formed on his lips. This young lad was almost identical to the monster tormenting and exhausting the crowd for the past hour. Burying himself in his paper he silently resented the injustice of the seating.
The woman was too tired to give much attention to her boy. He asked her several questions and wanted various things to amuse him. But she could not muster the energy to attend to his requests. She simply told him to read his book and keep quiet.
As the hours passed Higgins saw the boy sit contented at his play as the tired mum dozed. When the lad had an issue his mother gave clear direction which he followed. She was too tired or sick to amuse him for a moment, yet he seemed perfectly willing to accept that limitation and face his day compliant to her demands.
In time Higgins chatted with the toddler and found him to be polite and respectful.
The Lucky Mum
This was indeed a lucky mum. She did not need to be a wonder mum, with such a compliant child.
When the woman revived she answered Higgins’ questions. No, her son was not born ‘good’. He had presented her with demands, tantrums and wilfulness, just as they both had seen in the other boy that morning. She had dealt with it firmly, despite his protests. She had disciplined him and trained him to obey her instructions, even when he did not want to. She punished him with sufficient severity to convince him that he was wisest to obey.
She had now trained him to be no difficulty to those around him and she could have peace and confidence despite being unwell or tired, for her son would not be a problem to himself or others. She had neither bag of tricks nor endless energy. She did not have the stamina of the wonder mum in the other carriage. And she did not believe a child should be allowed to disrupt life for others.
At the Destination
At their destination angry passengers escaped from one carriage after a tortuous day with the wonder mum and her rebellious son. As the crowd gathered to collect their bags the mother, still struggling with her wilful boy, smiled her apologies to people too upset to notice. Near her, the other mum had sufficient strength to collect her things and move quietly, with her son, to the exit.
Higgins observed both mums and looked on with pity as the long-suffering wonder mum struggled with her rebel and her bags.
Wonder Mum
That night Higgins told his daughter about an amazing mum he had seen that day. A woman who made a lasting impression on him and who he would like her to learn from and be like. He also told her about the foolish mum who tortured herself and everyone else by not disciplining her rebellious child.

Marriage and Relationships,make the best out of what you have. Июль 23, 2009

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What It Takes to Be One Love alone won’t see you through., in an age when we have plastic marriages, plastic relationships, one may ask what does it take to have one strong and lasting happy relationship or marriage. My heart bleeds with pain as I write this article I just had a call from Windhoek from a colleague telling me of someone I had counseled as a practicing counselor it pains to get the news. He beat his wife to death, a very young couple they were, the man in his mid twenties and the woman in her early twenties. As I write this to you friends you realize how heavy my heart is at the loss of life, as the precious woman is dead, brutally in the name of love. Her dreams, aspirations and pursuits are all cut short. That`s why I put together a collection of thoughts just to check on you, and encourage you to be realistic and face the challenges of relationships with hope. What follows below may inspire you, enjoy and give comments freely. The sight of a couple sharing a joke and walking hand in hand, their faces lined all over with wrinkles, and their hair gray, begs the question: How did they remain a happy couple for so many years? Given that about half of all first marriages for men and women under 45 end in divorce, it’s a legitimate question. Their revelations may surprise you. «It’s not about how much you love each other, or how much money you have, or even if your personalities match,» Far more significant than these factors — yes, even more important than heart-pounding lust, which, let’s face it, often fades over time — is communication.. How well you and your spouse communicate with another? The second most significant factor that happy couples share, is a strong friendship. While you can’t necessarily teach a couple how to be friends, you can teach good friends how to communicate better. Developing Healthy Habits Three important ingredients of happy couples: • Avoid blowouts. «The first is to learn to talk without fighting about inevitable conflicts,». Making a concerted effort to see the other person’s perspective, and avoiding the blame game of «she said» or «he did,» goes a long way. When things appear to be hedging toward a blowout. Do what parents often tell young children: Take a «time out.» It’s a tactic he calls «exiting out of destructive fighting.» • Recall the positive. As parents often ask a child stewing in the time-out corner what she could have done differently, Couples in conflict take time to consider what brought them together in the first place. Then make room for those factors in your life again. «You’ve got to protect and preserve those positive connections — the friendship, the fun,» • Look to the future. While turning the clock back can help couples rekindle lost connections, I urge couples to simultaneously look forward. «You’ve got to have pretty long term vision of the future, shared dreams, and plans that represent a commitment to one another and your family,» Addressing a Sexless Marriage That future, according to most marriage experts, should include a healthy sex life. While sex isn’t everything to happy couples, sexual problems can lead to marital discord. That men and women tend to have different ideas about sex doesn’t help matters. Addressing a Sexless Marriage «Generally speaking, women tend to see sexuality as part of a larger construct. Men are exactly the opposite. «Women have to be in the mood. Men have to be in the room.» Many times, misunderstandings over these differences lead to a break down in a health relationship sexually within a marriage, even among happy couples. The result, is a sexless marriage. I call sexless marriages an «epidemic. Many of the married clients haven’t had sex in 10 years. Adopt a business approach to improve sex. Seeing things from a business-like perspective helps couples reframe their sexual relationship. «I tell them, ‘If this were a business, would you let it flounder like this?'» Presenting sex in this light makes problems, and solutions, more concrete for couples. «By likening it [marriage] to a business mode — with shared goals and missions; responsibilities, assets, and liabilities; and frequent business meetings — things shift,» Make honest assertions. To salvage their sex lives, some couples need to dig deeper. «Often, sex wasn’t good in the first place. A big complaint for women is that foreplay is bad or nonexistent,» But this isn’t easy for anyone to admit. «I do a lot of pushing for the truth,» Some couples simply aren’t prepared to tell, or hear, the truth. «A lot of couples fall out of it. It pushes too many buttons,» Learning Financial Savvy The topic of family finances is another hot-button topic, even for happy couples. Delegate the task of budget balancer. Experts observe that most happy couples recognize that handling household finances should remain a singular task. «Only one person can work the checkbook. There can’t be two CFOs,» That doesn’t mean, however, that the other partner should be kept in the dark about finances. Sheridan espouses making joint financial decisions, with just one person implementing. Start an emergency fund. I also strongly urge couples to plan for financial emergencies. This helps diffuse any potential blowups, such as who will sacrifice personal spending money when urgent house repairs must be funded. Every couple faces adversity, from slumps in their sex lives to bickering over the checkbook balance. Most married people can learn to become happy couples. «If both partners are motivated, they can turn things around. Hi guys make the best of your time and enjoy your relationships, whether dating or married, make the best of them

Кто автор твоих лимитов? Июль 15, 2009

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Новая Тема (07/12/09) 01:30 «Кто автор твоих лимитов?»

Пастор Андрей Шаповалов

Когда мы растём и развиваемся то, как дети испытываем всё в своей жизни. Мы не знаем или не замечаем лимитов, но с возрастом, смотря на людей вокруг и то, чего они достигли или чего они не достигли, мы ставим лимиты в своей жизни. Кто-то установил лимиты, и все, не задумываясь, живут в этих лимитах. Кто-то сказал: «Этого не возможно достичь», и практически никто с этим не спорит и даже не пытается изменить это! Все просто смирённо сидят и слушаются. И, как только тебе в голову попадает мысль или мечта, твой собственный разум даст тебе сотню причин, почему у тебя это не получится и какими лимитами ты обладаешь. Мы все росли в разных странах, но практически все из нас имели и многие продолжают иметь вокруг тех, кто продолжают быть авторами ваших лимитов. «И услышал Елиав, старший брат Давида, что говорил он с людьми, и рассердился Елиав на Давида и сказал: зачем ты сюда пришел и на кого оставил немногих овец тех в пустыне? Я знаю высокомерие твое и дурное сердце твое, ты пришел посмотреть на сражение. И сказал Давид: что же я сделал? не слова ли это? И отворотился от него к другому и говорил те же слова, и отвечал ему народ по-прежнему. И услышали слова, которые говорил Давид, и пересказали Саулу, и тот призвал его. И сказал Давид Саулу: пусть никто не падает духом из-за него; раб твой пойдет и сразится с этим Филистимлянином. И сказал Саул Давиду: не можешь ты идти против этого Филистимлянина, чтобы сразиться с ним, ибо ты еще юноша, а он воин от юности своей. И сказал Давид Саулу: раб твой пас овец у отца своего, и когда, бывало, приходил лев или медведь и уносил овцу из стада, то я гнался за ним и нападал на него и отнимал из пасти его; а если он бросался на меня, то я брал его за космы и поражал его и умерщвлял его; и льва и медведя убивал раб твой, и с этим Филистимлянином необрезанным будет то же, что с ними, потому что так поносит воинство Бога живаго. И сказал Давид: Господь, Который избавлял меня от льва и медведя, избавит меня и от руки этого Филистимлянина. И сказал Саул Давиду: иди, и да будет Господь с тобою. И одел Саул Давида в свои одежды, и возложил на голову его медный шлем, и надел на него броню. И опоясался Давид мечом его сверх одежды и начал ходить, ибо не привык [к такому вооружению]; потом сказал Давид Саулу: я не могу ходить в этом, я не привык. И снял Давид все это с себя. И взял посох свой в руку свою, и выбрал себе пять гладких камней из ручья, и положил их в пастушескую сумку, которая была с ним; и с сумкою и с пращею в руке своей выступил против Филистимлянина. Выступил и Филистимлянин, идя и приближаясь к Давиду, и оруженосец шел впереди его. И взглянул Филистимлянин и, увидев Давида, с презрением посмотрел на него, ибо он был молод, белокур и красив лицем. И сказал Филистимлянин Давиду: что ты идешь на меня с палкою? разве я собака? И проклял Филистимлянин Давида своими богами. И сказал Филистимлянин Давиду: подойди ко мне, и я отдам тело твое птицам небесным и зверям полевым. А Давид отвечал Филистимлянину: ты идешь против меня с мечом и копьем и щитом, а я иду против тебя во имя Господа Саваофа, Бога воинств Израильских, которые ты поносил; ныне предаст тебя Господь в руку мою, и я убью тебя, и сниму с тебя голову твою, и отдам трупы войска Филистимского птицам небесным и зверям земным, и узнает вся земля, что есть Бог в Израиле; и узнает весь этот сонм, что не мечом и копьем спасает Господь, ибо это война Господа, и Он предаст вас в руки наши. Когда Филистимлянин поднялся и стал подходить и приближаться навстречу Давиду, Давид поспешно побежал к строю навстречу Филистимлянину. И опустил Давид руку свою в сумку и взял оттуда камень, и бросил из пращи и поразил Филистимлянина в лоб, так что камень вонзился в лоб его, и он упал лицем на землю. Так одолел Давид Филистимлянина пращею и камнем, и поразил Филистимлянина и убил его; меча же не было в руках Давида. Тогда Давид подбежал и, наступив на Филистимлянина, взял меч его и вынул его из ножен, ударил его и отсек им голову его; Филистимляне, увидев, что силач их умер, побежали». (1-Царств 17:28-51) Разговаривая с людьми с лимитами, какие я только отговорки не слышал: «я не в той стране родился», «у меня не было родителей»,«у меня нет денег» и т. п. Наше христианство поставило лимитные рекорды. И уже почти 80 лет практически никто не собирается разбить всё старое и превзойти все установленные лимиты. Мы должны идти выше, видеть дальше и достигнуть намного больше, чем достигнуто. Разбей все лимиты! Павел вообще сказал, что жизнь-это как ристалище. «Не знаете ли, что бегущие на ристалище бегут все, но один получает награду? Так бегите, чтобы получить». (1-Коринфянам 9:24) Что такое ристалище? Это забег или марафон. Что такое забег? Это чьи-то рекорды. Что такое рекорды? Это чьи-то лимиты. А когда кто-то установил рекорд, то есть лимит, у тебя есть только два шанса: первый-согласиться с этим лимитом или второй — попытаться побить его. Вот и Павел говорит: «Бегите, чтобы получить», то есть побить чей-то установленный рекорд! Зачастую те, кто вокруг нас, создают правила, чтобы сломить твою волю. И мы так часто боимся сделать шаг в неизвестность, нарушить кем-то установленные лимиты и разрушить все привычные понятия. Если ты мечтаешь чего-то достичь, то это — первое с чем ты столкнёшься в любой сфере своей жизни. Ты столкнешься с чьими-то установленными лимитами. И от того, что ты сам скажешь себе, будет зависеть вся твоя последующая жизнь. «Когда же настал вечер, приступили к Нему ученики Его и сказали: место здесь пустынное и время уже позднее; отпусти народ, чтобы они пошли в селения и купили себе пищи. Но Иисус сказал им: не нужно им идти, вы дайте им есть. Они же говорят Ему: у нас здесь только пять хлебов и две рыбы. Он сказал: принесите их Мне сюда. И велел народу возлечь на траву и, взяв пять хлебов и две рыбы, воззрел на небо, благословил и, преломив, дал хлебы ученикам, а ученики народу. И ели все и насытились; и набрали оставшихся кусков двенадцать коробов полных; а евших было около пяти тысяч человек, кроме женщин и детей. И тотчас понудил Иисус учеников Своих войти в лодку и отправиться прежде Его на другую сторону, пока Он отпустит народ. И, отпустив народ, Он взошел на гору помолиться наедине; и вечером оставался там один. А лодка была уже на средине моря, и ее било волнами, потому что ветер был противный. В четвертую же стражу ночи пошел к ним Иисус, идя по морю. И ученики, увидев Его идущего по морю, встревожились и говорили: это призрак; и от страха вскричали. Но Иисус тотчас заговорил с ними и сказал: ободритесь; это Я, не бойтесь. Петр сказал Ему в ответ: Господи! если это Ты, повели мне придти к Тебе по воде. Он же сказал: иди. И, выйдя из лодки, Петр пошел по воде, чтобы подойти к Иисусу, но, видя сильный ветер, испугался и, начав утопать, закричал: Господи! спаси меня. Иисус тотчас простер руку, поддержал его и говорит ему: маловерный! зачем ты усомнился? И, когда вошли они в лодку, ветер утих. Бывшие же в лодке подошли, поклонились Ему и сказали: истинно Ты Сын Божий». (Матфея 14:15-33) Запомните одно: как Иисус разрушал лимиты у своих учеников, ходя по воде или преломляя хлеб для народа, точно так и ты должен разрушить все, что лимитирует тебя, разорвать отношения со всеми, кто лимитирует тебя, и продолжать двигаться к своей мечте. 

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Кого любить? Июнь 28, 2009

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Алексей Колодий

Евангелие от Луки 6:27-36, один из тех «колючих» отрывков писания, которые очень трудно принять. Не то чтобы он был не понятен, скорее он неудобен в исполнении. Причин тому несколько. Одна из них, это наша склонность в проблемах винить других людей, не проявляя понимание и снисходительность, а в некоторых случаях долготерпение и прощение. Тем более, этот эпизод описывает случаи, в которых, нам причиняют вред и поступают против нас вероломно. Когда ты обижен, очень трудно трезво оценить ситуацию. Обида, непрощение и страх, подавляют способность нашего разума находить приемлемый выход из трудных ситуаций.

Но, тут Иисус идет дальше и говорит нам, чтобы мы не просто были снисходительны и долготерпеливы. Он, так же заповедует нам выступать с конкретным решением проблемы, предлагая шаги, которые нам нужно предпринять. Подход, который часто практикуется людьми под дивизом: «на дураков не обижаются», в этом случает не приемлем.

Есть несколько ключевых слов, над которыми необходимо размышлять. Любите, делайте добро, благословляйте и молитесь.

» — Вам, слушающим Меня, Я говорю: — Любите ваших врагов, делайте добро тем, кто ненавидит вас,
благословляйте тех, кто проклинает вас, и молитесь о тех, кто оскорбляет вас.»

Эти слова обращены ко всем, кто может слышать. Слышать в библейском смысле означает понимать, принимать и поступать. Но так же, это слово означает буквально слышание. Это значит, что любой, кто фактически услышал эти слова, дожен исполнять их для своего же блага. Господь призывает не ждать, пока нас поймут, нам отдадут должное, начнут ценить нас, а самим предпринимать шаги в поиске решения. Любовь вместо ненависти, делание добра вместо мести, благословение вместо проклятий, молитва вместо растеряного пожимания плечами.

«Ударившему тебя по щеке подставь и другую, а тому, кто забирает у тебя плащ, не мешай забрать и рубаху.»

Насилию, противопоставляется пожертвование и милосердие. Очень сильно Иисус проилюстрировал этот принцип говоря: «Никто ее (жизнь) у Меня не может отнять, Я отдаю ее добровольно. У Меня есть власть отдать ее и взять ее опять. Так было Мне определено Моим Отцом.»(Иоан.10:18) Поистине, невозможно у нас забрать то, что мы отдаем добровольно.

 «Каждому, кто у тебя просит, дай; и если кто-то заберет твою вещь, не требуй ее обратно.» Очень часто нам приходится давать в долг и самим брать взаймы. Долги это одна из самых острых причин разрушения отношений между людьми. Когда у меня занимают деньги и я способен дать займ, я руководствуюсь простым принципом, который мне помогает уже долгие годы. «Давай ровно столько, сколько ты можешь позволить себе потерять» Если я в позиции должника, то тут руководит другой принцип, «Не оставайтесь должными никому, ничем». Это подразумевает, что нам необходимо освобождаться от долгов в кратчайшие сроки.

» Делайте другим то, что вы хотели бы, чтобы они сделали вам.»
Эти слова не о корыстолюбии, а о том, что мы находимся во взаимодействии причинно-следственных связей. Все, что мы делаем на земле, возвращается к нам в этой жизни, а если не так, то оно идет за нами в вечность. Когда мы думаем, говорим или поступаем с кем то несправедливо, мы должны понимать, что рано или поздно, все это в полной мере вернет к нам. Как и добрые дела, совершенные нами, не могут не отразится на нашей настоящей жизни или будущей.

«Если вы любите тех, кто любит вас, в чем ваша заслуга? Ведь даже грешники любят тех, кто их любит. Если вы делаете добро тем, кто делает добро вам, то в чем ваша заслуга? Ведь даже грешники делают то же. Если вы даете в долг только тем, от кого надеетесь получить обратно, то в чем ваша заслуга? Ведь даже грешники дают в долг грешникам, ожидая получить назад столько же. Но вы любите ваших врагов, делайте им добро, и давайте в долг, не ожидая возврата. Тогда ваша награда будет велика, и вы будете сыновьями Всевышнего, потому что Он сам так же добр к неблагодарным и злым. Будьте милосердны, как ваш Отец милосерден. (Лук.6:27-36)

Любить тех, кто любит тебя, делать добро для тех, кто помогает тебе -это очень просто и само собой разумеется. Но наш личностный рост происходит тогда, когда мы выходим за рамки привычного и удобного. Мышцы растут, когда ты тренируешь их, чувства укрепляются, когда ты работаешь над ними. Рост, через боль и тяжелый труд над собой. Не возможно изменить кого то и повлиять на кого то,  предварительно не изменив себя. Наша жизнь, это не попытки изменить мир и людей вокруг нас, а перемены, которые мы производим в себе. Они видоизменяют не только нас, но и все, что нас окружает, а так же тех, с кем мы строим отношения.

Блез Паскаль, обличитель иллюзий Июнь 20, 2009

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«Человек – самое непостижимое для себя творение природы, – утверждал физик и философ Блез Паскаль. – Ему трудно уразуметь, что такое тело, еще труднее – что такое дух, и уж совсем непонятно, как тело может соединяться с духом. Нет для человека задачи неразрешимее, а между тем это и есть он сам».

Имя гениального ученого Паскаля знает каждый, хотя бы как единицу измерения давления или название языка программирования. Он прожил всего 39 лет, но успел заложить основы нескольких направлений в математике, открыл атмосферное давление, сформулировал основной закон гидростатики… Однако уникальным мыслителем Паскаля делают не его научные достижения, а соседствующий с ними дар писателя, мистика и знатока человеческой души. Я не знаю других людей, кто, подобно Паскалю, равно глубоко понимал бы природу и человека, был бы так щедро одарен всем: разумом, словом и верой. Ему часто отказывают в праве называться философом – ведь он не изобрел собственной системы и написал лишь две книги: публицистически страстные «Письма к провинциалу», призывавшие к живой, искренней вере, и тонкие, завораживающе глубокие «Мысли» – записки, изданные друзьями после его смерти. Зато он сделал другое – понял вслед за Монтенем и задолго до Ницше ложь и лицемерие мира. Этот христианин ни во что не верил – ни во что, кроме Бога. Все остальное – светская жизнь, политика, любовь – под его пронзительным взглядом обнажает наши заблуждения, нашу малость, наши иллюзии.

Каждый человек хочет быть счастлив, говорит Паскаль, но никто не может достичь счастья на земле. «Мы никогда не живем, а лишь располагаем жить; мы всегда предполагаем быть счастливы, но неизбежно, что мы никогда не будем счастливы». Избежать несчастья можно только через веру. Если вы не согласны, вам придется иметь дело с Паскалем. И переспорить его нелегко…