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GOD HATES DIVORCE (Ml 2:16) — articles from Silvio Caddeo 30 мая, 2009

Posted by Alyosha Kolodiy in Актуальная проблема -problem of today, Библейские уроки-Bible lessons, Библия говорит - Bible Speaks, Трибуна братства - The brotherhood tribune, Цитаты Великих - Great Quotes, Today's Devotional.
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The divorce and the leadership in the Church

Divorce is often associated with egoism, egocentrism, instability, lies and other sins, but because of the Israelites had hard hearts, the Lord permitted them to divorce (De 24:1. Mt 19:8). However, divorce was not part of the original plan of God (Ge 1:27; 2 :24. Mt 19:4-6) and should not be justified or welcomed among Christians.  

 In order to have a correct vision of the whole Divine Revelation, we have to underline that already before the coming of Jesus, the prophet Malachi had strongly spoken against divorce, cheating, violence and religious hypocrisy, “You ask, Why? It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is you partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. I hate divorce, says the Lord God of Israel, and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment, says the Lord Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not be unfaithful” (Ml 2:14-16).    To understand the subject properly and not to be confused by the numerous human theories, we have always to remember that God hates divorce.

MATTHEW 5:31-32

Against divorce, Jesus spoke this way, «It has been said, Anyone who divorce his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for immorality, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery” (Mt 5:31-32).

The question that we should ask is: Why the one who repudiate his wife that has not been unfaithful causes her to become adulteress? If she has been faithful, how could she become adulteress? Could she become adulteress just because she has been repudiated by her husband?          

The answer for that enigma comes from Paul, “By example, according to the law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she married another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man” (Ro 7:2-3).

 Paul repeats about the same concept, “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgement, she is happier if she stays as she is – and I think that I too have the Spirit of God”

(1 Co 7:39-40).

 We have to remember that then, the woman did not have the right of ownership; she had always to depend from someone, from her father or from her husband. It was like that even in Québec about 50 years ago, when the woman did not have the authority to the ownership and to sign a check. At that time, to work outside of the house for a woman was considered an immorality. For that reason, to survive, for a repudiated woman it was necessary to remarry or to become a servant, where she was often raped by the master of the house. 

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А какое тебе дело до того, как у меня дела? 21 мая, 2009

Posted by Alyosha Kolodiy in Актуальная проблема -problem of today, Today's Devotional.
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Об этой теме меня побудил написать разговор, который у меня состоялся с одним из моих знакомых. Когда при встрече, я задал ему вопрос: «Как дела? Он прищурился, посмотрел мне в глаза и задал встречный вопрос: а тебе, что правда есть дело до того, какие у меня дела?  Я, если честно растерялся, потому что никак не ожидал подобного встречного вопроса, да и если честно в тот момент я не мог искренне сказать, что меня беспокоило то, что происходило в жизни этого человека. Скорее я использовал этот вопрос для того, чтобы не нарушать правил традиционного приветствия. Так как такая форма приветствия при встрече? очень распространена в наши дни. Очень часто встречаясь со своими друзьями и знакомыми, мы после приветствия, задаем им вопрос: Как дела?

Существуют по крайней мере три версии о том, что этот вопрос значит. Во перевых в 85 процентах случаев, это скорее форма приветствия, ни к чему не обязывающая ни того, кто спрашивает, ни того у кого спрашивают. К сожалению подобная статистика свидетельствует о том, в отношениях между ближними главенствует формальность. Около половины людей из этого числа, лицемерят и в других обстоятельствах

Во вторых, около 5 процентов людей, задают подобный вопрос просто из вежливости. Стремление выглядеть немножечко лучше, чем мы есть на самом деле, присуща человеческому естеству. Многие из этой категории простые, воспитание и вежливые люди. Их нельзя упрекнуть  в лицемерии. 

Третья категория людей, это те, кого по настоящему интересуют обстоятельства нашей жизни. Но, 6 процентов, это те, кто просто хочет знать, что кому то живется хуже, чем им. Таким людям приходит облегчение, когда вы начинаете жаловаться и роптать на свою жизнь. Так же в эти 6 процентов входят те, кто пополняет недостаток информации о вас, чтобы потом пополнять недостаток информации овашей жизни у других. Другими словами, мы называем таких людей сплетниками.

И наконец оставшие 4 процента, это люди, которым необходимо знать об обстоятельствах вашей жизни, так как они по настоящему беспокоятся о вас, желая помочь, поддержать, помолиться о вас. Эти люди, никогда не узнают о вас от других, но обычно сами встречаются с вами, для того чтобы быть в курсе последних событий в вашей жизни. Они не стремятся получить от вас информацию на бегу. Обычно они приглашают вас к себе в гости, или стремятся провести с вами больше времени при других обстоятельствах. Они звонят вам, чаще, чем это делает ваш муж, жена или ваши родители, или дети.

Те, кто по настоящему интересуется мной и моими делами, звонят мне почти каждый день. Мы часто ходим кафе выпить чашку кофе, или пообедать. Иногда мы выбираемся на прогулку в парк или в лес. Одно отличает их от остальной группы, это то,что они стремяться провести со мной время. Я равняюсь на таких людей и хочу быть похож на них в своих отношениях с людьми.

А как дела у вас?

P.S. напишите мне об этом в поле для коментариев или на мой e-mail : a_kolodyua@mail.ru   Мне хочеться знать о вас больше.

A Father’s Heart for the Hurting 19 мая, 2009

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A Father’s Heart for the Hurting
By James J. Holden

STORY-~3Have you ever gone through a day and become so exhausted that all you wanted to do was flop down on the sofa and zone out in front of the TV? I recently did. It had been a long, stressful day, and I just needed some time to relax and turn off my brain for the rest of the night. However, this was not going to happen. My mind began working overtime as I was drawn into the story line.

One of the characters, a young man in his early 20s, was just days away from the birth of his first child. As the show progressed, the young man revealed that when he was 10 years old, his father left him. Now, facing the birth of twin sons, he found himself terrified at the thought of being a father. He had nowhere to turn for advice and support, and he wanted to be a better father to his kids than his dad was to him.

As I watched, I felt like my heart was breaking into a thousand pieces. I knew the pain this young man felt. I, too, have had a father who has left me fearful and unprepared for life as a man. I remember the sense of fear and hopelessness as I licked my wounds from the last round of verbal and emotional beatings from my father. I recognized the feelings this young man felt, wondering if I was doomed to repeat the same mistakes of my father.

Like the young man, I had reached out many times to other men in hope of support, advice, encouragement and love. Like him, I had been denied help by men who just didn’t want to be bothered. A few men gave me some help along the way, but because of the distance between us, they couldn’t give me the help that I needed. My desire for a man to help me through these tough issues was for the most part ignored. I had no one to reach out to, no one to help me and tell me everything would be OK. Thankfully, God did provide me with a godly mother to help me through this time. However, there were some times that it would have been more comfortable talking about certain things with a man.

As the show reached its conclusion, I wanted to just sit there and cry for the young man. I know it was only a TV show, but I longed to reach out, take him in my arms, and comfort him. Then I wanted to help him work through the grief and pain he was facing and let him know he wasn’t doomed to repeat his dad’s failure. I never want another man to have to face the hurts and pain of both a father’s rejection and the rejection of other Christian men who turned away from me in my hour of need.

It was at this moment that I felt God speak to my heart. He said, «This is only a tenth of the hurt and pain I feel every moment as I look at the faces of my men who feel alone and abandoned by their fathers. I long to be their Father, and I long for my children to rise up and be a father to these men.»

That’s when it hit me. We, as men, need to do this job. We are children of a loving heavenly Father. We need to share this same love with the younger men who have never felt a father’s love.

The apostle Paul was such a man. On his first missionary journey, he met a young man named Timothy. Timothy was a man called by God and full of promise. While he was supported by a strong mother and grandmother, he needed the influence of a godly man in his life. Paul decided to be that man. He took Timothy under his wing. He fathered Him. He let Timothy see what it meant to be a godly man throughout his life and the lives of his companions like Luke and Barnabas. As a result, Timothy became a godly man in his own right, and in time became a strong leader in the early church.

What about you? Is there a young man you could be helping? Church youth groups are full of young men who are products of divorce or abandonment. Can you reach out to them and become a godly influence in their lives? Could you be the man they seek out when they have questions or fears about their future? Could you be a source of encouragement to them in their time of need?

Ask God to give you his heart for the hurting men around you. Ask Him to open doors for you to show His love to another young man. Ask Him to use you to show the love of God to another hurting man. When He places someone in your path, ask Him for the right words and actions to help that young man. Then be obedient to what the Holy Spirit leads you to do. You never know what changes you can make to a world full of hurting young men.

James J. Holden (jjosh@frontier.net), a graduate of Valley Forge Christian College, is a freelance writer with a heart for ministering to men. He writes a monthly article for the Assemblies of God National Men’s Ministry Web site. He recently founded Not Your Dad Ministries (notyourdadministries.com), which provides biblical teaching to help men overcome the pain of their past.